If you decide to divorce, you won’t be at a loss for things to do. Every decision you make will affect your future, so it’s critical that you keep a clear mind and move forward as efficiently as possible.

While you’re preparing for the process and caring for yourself, it’s a must that you also turn your attention to the well-being of your children. Even if everything goes as planned, divorce can affect your children in a variety of ways. Throw in conflict between you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse and you’ll soon realize that there’s a lot on your plate.

Here are some of the many ways to protect your children during a contentious divorce:

  • Stay involved: You have a lot going on, but you should still stay involved with your children. Do the things that you’ve always done together. If you push them to the side now, it’s even easier for them to feel left out.
  • Show a united front: It’s easier said than done, but showing a united front with your spouse will give your children peace of mind. You don’t have to go overboard. Just make it clear to your children that the two of you will always be there for them.
  • Answer their questions: You never know what your children will ask about your divorce. However, even if you’re stunned, you must answer any questions that come your way. The worst thing you can do is leave your child hanging, as this gives their mind the opportunity to wander.
  • Talk about the future: Just as you have questions and concerns about the future, your children will feel the same way. Talk to them about what’s changing, what’s staying the same and what you can do to make things as easy on them as possible.

It’s difficult enough to protect your children during an amicable divorce. Throw in a bundle of tension and stress, and you have a volatile situation.

Once you have a strategy in place for helping your children through your divorce, you’ll feel better about your ability to focus on yourself and protect your legal rights.